We know that when people get married, they tend to combine assets. What’s hers is his and whats his is hers. Sometimes, that can mean taking on a person’s debt too. But marriage isn’t the only time couples blend things. Good or bad, we tend to pick up the habits or interests of the people we spend the most time with.
I learned who 50 Cent was from the guy I dated in high school. Because I of him, I had a closet filled with red clothing. It was his favorite color and I wanted to match with him when we went out. I learned to appreciate wine (and that I dislike Malbec with a passion) from a much older guy. He introduced me to the wonderful music of Anthony Hamilton, schooled me on the stock market, the art of negotiation and the importance of saving for retirement. From me, both men probably learned how to be a psychoneurotic worry wart (We all have our flaws. I accept mine). Hopefully, they got some good stuff out of their relationships with me too.
In my latest round at the dating rodeo, the guy and I decided to have a “Blockbuster night” for one of our dates. Instead of a movie, we agreed to watch three episodes of each other’s favorite TV show – mine is Scandal, his is Game of Thrones. Though neither of us cared for the other’s choice in show, we had a good time that night. He couldn’t see Scandal’s Olivia as anything more than a “side chick who fell in love” and I quickly lost interest in Game of Thrones. There are too many characters and not enough dialogue. I did, however manage to get him to watch Girls, willingly, though he denies that he enjoys it. He has gotten me hooked on cupcakes (not good for my waist at all) and though I’ve lived in Brooklyn all of my life, he’s taken me to parts of the city that I’ve always overlooked because I thought of them as tourist destinations. I’m introducing him to the real New Yorker’s New York.
“Merging interests,” is how my friend described it. I like it.
What interests have you picked up in your relationships that you have or will keep whether or not the person remains in your life?