I was watching Good Morning America this morning and they had a segment on couples going Dutch on engagement rings.
GMA legal analyst Dan Abrams said that the notions of the guy paying for the ring and the woman’s family paying for the wedding are outdated. He said since engagement rings can cost as much as a mortgage, couples could split the cost. The GMA news reader, Josh Elliot, said he was sure someone would say women should split the cost of the ring when men can give birth. Sure enough, they showed a tweet that said just that.
My mother is not in a financial situation to pay for my wedding so I know that when I get married, my husband and I will definitely have to split the cost. Knowing that, it would make sense that we go Dutch on the ring too BUT I don’t know how I feel about that. I want to be surprised when my future husband proposes. It just won’t be the same if we buy the ring together. Then, there’s the thing I would say to my friends when I was younger. I will know a man is serious about marrying if he proposes with a ring. That would signal to me that he thought about it long and hard. Thankfully, I’ve grown up since then. Though I would like a nice ring, I know a guy doesn’t have to buy me a large rock to prove that he is serious.
I know a few happily married couples that skipped the large wedding and got married without an engagement ring. Instead of splitting the cost they forwent the big wedding and expensive engagement ring and opted to put that money towards savings for a house. That, to me, is the smartest thing of all.
What do you think about going Dutch on engagement rings? Vote whether you amour or abhor the idea in the poll and feel free to explain why in the comments.